I’m big on humanity. Humanity is how we were created. There was, and is, something very divine in how we were created. When we become more self aware, how people are experiencing us, we are gaining a greater understanding of our own humanity. Showing our emotions, being vulnerable and honest are all ways of showing that we are human.
I read this quote that, to me, was profound.
Pema Chödrön “Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. Its’ a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.”
Honesty isn’t just about you telling someone the truth. It’s not just about telling that person your opinion of what you believe to be truth. Honesty is also being truthful to yourself. When we “open up” or are honest with someone else, and they are honest with you about themselves, you reach a level of vulnerability that seems to be fading in our society and world. If we can’t be honest about ourselves with ourselves, then what we are doing is ignoring the things that made us who we are and ignoring our humanity. We are ignoring the very things that make us human.
In being honest with yourself about your hurts, pains, habits, hangups, gifts, blessings, character, short comings, emotions and disappointments, you are honoring yourself. And if you share them with someone else, you are honoring them. Though in Jesus there was no darkness, the quote above rings true. Christ understands our pain and can have compassion on us because he walked this earth as a human. He modeled honoring others and showing compassion towards them because he knew the past of every person he came into contact with.
Sharing these things and being honest is what allows us to not only see each other as humans and see each others humanity, but it also allows us to show compassion and grace towards those around us. Being present is allowing us the freedom to be human.
Do you have a time where you experienced someone honoring you by them sharing their humanity? Or can you think of a time where you were the one honoring someone else? What kind of response was there? Thoughts?